We all know that job searching is no fun, but what really hurts is rejection. No matter when it happens, via the usual communication black hole, or after the first or second interview, rejection hurts. Period! But you know what also really sucks… the automated ‘feedback’.
What makes the whole automated feedback loop so unsatisfactory is the fact that most of the details you receive are simply useless. What I want you to embrace today are my suggestions. I get this regularly from my rejected clients – the amount of wasted energy and emotion on the feedback passed off as ‘helpful information’ once the interview is done. I have discovered that the so called feedback detracts you from focusing on what really matters: getting the right job.
I have five (5) pieces of advice on how to deal with rejection ‘feedback’ and how to move on.
It’s so much like dating when people talk about the hiring process. If you have ever broken up with someone, you will know what I am talking about.
“It’s not you, it’s me.”
The harsh truth is that for most people speaking the truth can be as unpleasant as hearing it and so too many people will avoid that at all costs. In addition, in Australia & New Zealand and in most other uber-legal, highly litigious countries, there is an ingrained reluctance to really speak the truth for fear of responsibility.
This is probably the most important part to keep in mind about rejection. You made it to the 1st and maybe 2nd interview. That means you were a very good candidate.
So stop beating yourself up. When someone else is picked, it doesn’t always mean that a choice was made against you. The natural mindset for most job hunters after being rejected is to think about what could have been done diversely.
This is all you can control, but it could have nothing to do with why you were not hired.
You know that gut feelings you get about people — good or bad? Is it really that important to find out why you felt that way? I suggest that you trust your instincts. The selection process is the same. You know that you were a perfect candidate for the job but another guy got the gig because the decision maker just felt more comfortable with that person. I often ask employers to describe the common thread shared by everyone on their team, and many describe something along the lines of, “I can’t tell you what it is, but I know it when I see it.”
Spot on! You guessed it. The whole selection and hiring process is a sum of many parts: mostly, people. And people are a hard thing to understand. Put all the people together and try to get opinion. It’s often a wonder any decision gets made at all.
You are wasting your time if you are trying to apply rationale to something as speculative and nuance-driven as the hiring process. On top of that, you are emotionally involved. Being objective is an unreasonable expectation for you to have for yourself. In fact, it’s almost impossible.
Instead of dissecting what you’re told (if anything) after an interview, I want you to do two or three things:
First, capitalise on the opportunity presented and reflect on the fact that you made it into the 1st or maybe even the 2nd interview.
Second, reflect on whether you were the most realistic representation of yourself in the interview. If you were, and you didn’t get the job, then it wasn’t the right fit for you.
As much as you want the job during an interview, sometimes not winning can be a blessing in disguise. The downside of getting hired for something that isn’t right for you can be even more devastating than being rejected in the job search.
If you want to impress hiring managers or recruiters and grab an entry level job, here are a three tips and tricks to make you stand out.
Look for Entry Level Positions – Remove those jobs you aren’t qualified for, even if you have the degree. In a tough job market, you are one of a hundred candidates. To increase your chances of getting hired, use search engines that deliver only new grad jobs instead.
Use your Social Media Connections– You never know who might be able to refer you to your first job. Create profiles on social networking sites like Twitter, LinkedIn, Google+ and Facebook to find people in the industry who can guide you the right way. Job market places that also provide a community that you can connect with are ideal.
Highlight & Sell your Strength– Just because you don’t have 10 years’ experience in a particular field does not mean you have nothing to offer. When you sign up to a new job listing board, you can still add relevant awards and recognitions to your profile.
No matter what age or experience spectrum you see yourself in, stop mulling over spilled milk and move on. You made it into the interview. You are a good candidate.
Go back to the start and remember to hunt wisely!